Dear Teacher Sleepy Sweats

Dear Fox and Hanger,
I work as a preschool teacher in an affluent community. Most of the parents are into brand names and these kids wear clothes that cost more than my entire wardrobe!  At school, I wear clothing that is appropriate for working with kids. This consists of my favorite sweats and some sort of t-shirt. Also, I love to wear zip-up sweatshirts.  When I’m at work, I like to feel comfortable.  Comfortable has its downside considering im dozing off in the book corner! I’ve always dressed this way when working with kids.Now that I’m not in college or dating anyone that isn’t my home-body husband, my sweats to jean ratio is totally unacceptable, coming from someone that was voted best dressed in ‘98!  Please help me.
Teacher Sleepy Sweats


Dear Teacher Sleepy Sweats,

It sounds like you’ve got a fashion crisis and could use a foxy friend to hang with! Thank you so much for reaching out . It took guts to share your story and ask for help.  Please know that you are not alone. This is something that millions of people struggle with at some point in their lives

Your letter gave me a clear window into your daily life. You work as a preschool teacher in an affluent, image-obsessed community.  That being said, you are a dedicated teacher who has her priorities in check… you are there for the kids. This means getting messy, playing on the floor, and being fully immersed in everything that is colorful, germy, and developmentally appropriate.

However, your clothing choices aren’t in alignment with the population you work with. Since you are so tuned in to the kids, it’s easy to forget that your life’s work is also a business. These parents have high standards and “looking a certain way”, is important to them.

Please note, I am not suggesting you stop focusing on the children, and morph into a materialistic, people pleaser that pairs slacks with nude pumps! I am asking you to adjust your image .

The clothing you wear to work makes you feel sleepy. Also, your style is sending out a message that you don’t care.  This is farthest thing from the truth. Unfortunately, this is what your look portrays.   It’s the energy that is pulsating from your sweats as they are falling asleep in the book corner (hopefully, your mascara doesn’t end up where your blush should be 😉

As an Early Childhood Educator, you have a reputation to uphold!
In truth, teachers are the most important and undervalued profession in the world.   You deserve to wear clothing that makes you feel important. There is such thing as having a style that’s “kid friendly” and professional.

The first steps I  want you to make are small but will make huge difference. You ready? Ok….instead of sweats, I want you to wear pants with an actual button (don’t forget a belt is a pants best friend). Even though there are thousands of different amazing leggings out there, I want you to at least try pants for at least a month before transitioning to leggings! Think of pants as the shot of espresso you need!  Make sure these pants are clean and fit your body like a glove. Also, make sure that they don’t have those over-the-top crease marks (Sooo 2000!!)
Dress in a way that fits your personality, but REMEMBER your audience.

Next, loose the hooded sweatshirts and come up with a cleaner alternative. For example, a classic denim jacket or a sweater.  Instead of a cheap t-shirt, invest in quality tops that represent your authentic style. What kinds of looks are you drawn too? Do you have a favorite accessory that just makes you happy? What colors make you feel awake, creative, inspired and alive? How can you use clothing as a way to honor your best self?
Are you someone who can pull off a paisley or quirky pattern like an alchemist?  Have fun with your style in the same way you have fun with your class.   And the most importantly ask yourself: Am I leaving the house in something that I would sleep in?

You are important Teacher Sleepy Sweats!   I wish you well on our journey as you transform your sleepy attire into a whole new look and life for yourself. Remember turtle-dove, you have to teach people how to treat you. So treat yourself kindly …

Please stay in touch and let me know what life looks once you are out of the fashion vortex and back in touch with your fabulous self! You weren’t voted best dressed in ‘98 for nothing!

All my love doll face!
Fox and Hanger

Julie Rubenstein
Wardrobe Specialist